Thoughts on the Words We speak

All kinds of animals, birds, reptiles and sea creatures are being tamed and have been tamed by mankind, but no human being can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison.

With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse human beings, who have been made in God’s likeness. Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers and sisters, this should not be. Can both fresh water and salt water flow from the same spring? My brothers and sisters, can a fig tree bear olives, or a grapevine bear figs? Neither can a salt spring produce fresh water.

James 3:7-12

James’ discussion of the tongue continues in these verses with a bit of hyperbole. While there are people who tame all sorts of animals, who can tame their tongue? Well, it isn’t easy is it?

The hyperbole, as I see it, is in suggesting that the tongue cannot be tamed at all. Taming the tongue is very difficult for most of us, but if it were impossible, what would be the point of this passage? From time-to-time folks come along who insist on a literal interpretation of everything and they sometimes object to my assertion that the Bible contains hyperbole. In the unlikely event that you are one of those, let me just politely ask you if you would take this passage to justify tossing “F-bombs” all over town… after all, the tongue cannot be tamed; “F-bombs” are normal, right?

James points out that the same mouth can both praise God and curse those made in His image and the very strong implication is that this is not an acceptable way for followers of Jesus to behave. Certainly, it is almost impossible for me to imagine Jesus doing this, and since He is our model, I think we can safely conclude that this is also not the way we should conduct ourselves.

At the risk of shocking some, I would also say that there is much more at stake here than some kind of a “violation” because we might have uttered a “forbidden” word. No, that is entirely an Old Covenant perspective of Law and violations. In Christ, things are different. Cursing our brother is not simply a “violation” of some code, it is tearing down one of God’s sacred children. It isn’t simply about one’s choice of phrasing, it’s showing disdain for someone who God loves so much that He was willing for His Son to die to save that person, and thus it is a direct affront to God Himself. It is surely not an example of love in action.

This is a pretty obvious point, and I realize that James (and I) have covered this same principle in the discussion about favoritism, so I will leave it at that. Instead, I will close by recounting something one of my instructors taught years ago that made an impression on me that has stuck with me over time. She said that the way you speak is the way you think; if your language is sloppy and undisciplined, so will your thoughts be sloppy and undisciplined. If that is the case, your reasoning will be virtually non-existent.

Something to reflect upon, perhaps?

About Don Merritt

A long time teacher and writer, Don hopes to share his varied life's experiences in a different way with a Christian perspective.
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4 Responses to Thoughts on the Words We speak

  1. Cindy Dawson says:

    Great post, Don! Blessings!

  2. osborne2029 says:

    Don. I think James used hyperbole to impress the point of how difficult it is to tame the tongue. My wife, Karen, and I were recently deeply emotionally wounded by a Christian friend suggesting in an email that the reason I’m not healed of an extremely rare autoimmune disease called mastocytosis, is because I’m lacking in faith. The things we say to our brothers, sisters in Christ and anyone can leave a lasting damaging impression. We know this because we have done many hours of crisis counseling with those who were the victims of the verbal judgment of others. This reignited past episodes of abuse, which caused their post-traumatic stress disorder (P.T.S.D.) to flare. We have cried with them as they have told us just how devastated they have been by harsh ill-thought words.

    I wish I could have hit an erase button for the hurtful things I have said to others over the course of my lifetime. I still have those times where I have said something to someone and thought to myself afterward, “Father, I blew it again. I’m so sorry for speaking without thinking.” I try to go to the person I have offended and apologize for my actions. Don, we all need to be more careful of the words we say.

    Dr. Kevin Osborne Psy.D., D.Sc., D.D.
    Diplomate in Traumatology

  3. Tom says:

    I like how you pointed out that cursing is not just curse words, but also cutting down, degrading people. It is really a matter of the heart’s overflow. Thank you for sharing this.

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